Toby: “You’re a mom. It’s not the cookies or the smiles, it’s the hard stuff, the scary stuff. It’s how you can do it. It’s strength”. – The Walking Dead –
It’s the busy hustle and bustle for the week, our routines. Baby A turned four this summer(not so baby anymore), she is a full-time JK now. I did return to work after all, and its been quite the challenge. I decided to go back because I want to be an example for my girls, I want them to know that it is possible to have a career and have your family too. It is about finding that balance in your life, being able to dedicate your time for your family and also detaching for a bit while in a work environment. Being at work for me is about finding and developing my skills. Contributing to our community and discovering what i am good at outside of being a parent. I have learned that at times my mom skills have really applied to my job and vice versa. We work for people, we don’t work for companies.
Being a mom has taught me how to juggle a multitude of tasks and roles. Its about time management, organisation and working smarter. That’s been a big lesson for me lately, working smarter and not harder. With the constant changing demands in parenting, the key has been finding easier ways to manage the load, stress, pressure and challenges. Working for a large corporation has been no different, its become so much more demanding with challenges like parity, gender gaps, change in operating hours, compliance, management, and just a lot harder in general to maintain a balance. It has been a long battle since my return to work, pushing to get ahead as a female and working mother of three. As much as i want to keep pushing changes for better opportunities for my daughters, it was a night over dinner that a simple conversation with my now 10 year old brought it all back into perspective. It was a simple phrase, a response to the most common question anyone would ask a 4th grader. ” Want to you want to do when you grown up?” her response: ” I would like to be a scientist. but you know mom, I don’t think i can be a very good scientist if I have kids.” The first thing to come to mind, I have failed. It was a very deep conversation between a mom and 9 year old that evening. What came out of that conversation is that its equally important to know what you want for yourself and have the strong support system around you to make it possible to achieve your goals. My company is not ready to make the necessary shift to support my goals. but there are other companies out there with supportive and trained management. Companies that reward and encourage new ideas and foster a successful environment. Maybe success is defined differently today. Maybe its bringing up a new generation of workers that value more then just a title and stature. I want to bring up strong independent women and i want them to understand that road blocks are just important challenges presenting more possibilities. Without failing, we can never improve. Without the storms we cannot appreciate the sunny days.
I will be sharing some of our challenges as a growing family, as a mother of 3 trying to find the balance, the right job (yes, I have decided to look for a better opportunity) and just some of the day to day conversation that comes up with my girls. Sometimes it takes talking to a 9 year old to really understand the world today. 🙂 Munchkin Happy.
On a regular Saturday Morning, I make breakfast for my family and after some morning topic discussions (which usually involves highlights from the week and requests for things to do on our 2 days off from school) We take the time to relax and unwind from our hectic week. This morning however, I woke up made everyone breakfast and just watched my kids go about their usual playful ways. I sat in silence, my heart full of sadness and my mind full of anger for the tragedy that happened in Connecticut. I have been trying to imagine what parents and families are feeling right now in the wake of the nightmare their lives have turned into. No parents should ever ever have to feel that way.
Children are precious gifts. They bring love, laughter and unforgettable moments to our lives. They enrich our souls with beauty and knowledge; through their innocent eyes we relive and replenish our own childhood memories. Without them there is no future in this world. Yet Children are the biggest victims today suffering the most unbelievable of abuse, violence and torture. Many are taken from this world with such cruelty. I am saddened to think of what they suffered at the hands of a heartless monster. Yes, this monster was a troubled young man and I cannot for a second find a reason or excuse or even a slight glimpse of forgiveness for what he has inflicted on these children and families. I am human, I am a mother, I am a daughter, I am a child of God. I am not perfect by any means but this was not acceptable! Why do humans inflict so much pain on each other? Why do we continue to support a system of corruption and inhumanity? GUNS ARE NOT NATURAL. GUNS ARE NOT THE ANSWER. GUNS. ARE. A BUSINESS.
As long as we human beings continue to support guns, we continue to support corruption into our schools, community, society and homes. It’s a never-ending cycle. I keep hearing “its a part of my constitutional right to own a gun” really? please ask yourselves looking right in the face of what has been happening to our people, our children; in the eyes of these parents and families and answer this: I NEED A GUN BEACAUSE_______________________. What do you fear so deeply in your soul that could possible justify you having a gun at home? A gun in your home where you hold everything most precious and valuable to your life? Think for a minute with me here because my mind is just gonna explode soon. You own a gun right now at this moment and are appalled with what is going on, you decide you’re gonna get ride of it. What will you do with it? Sell it? destroy it? sadly it will end up in the wrong hands again because a gun is worth money. Guns are sold and then resold illegally, simply unaccounted for. Another gun made available to sick minds, dark souls, conditioned beings. I will say it again GUNS ARE NOT NATURAL. Human beings are incredibly capable of loving like nothing else in life. We need to focus on spreading that universal language and setting an example for our youth. Living out that love and believing in a higher being. Faith. Why do people believe its socially and morally acceptable to showcase guns, run around pointing them at each other in front of kids yet when things get ugly and are presently in our faces expect them to close their eyes? Why condition them to thinking its ok to have a gun in the house, ok to allow them as a constitutional right but then shield the conditioning of the results/consequences ? Lets not continue fooling ourselves and let’s be held accountable for the stupidity and cruelty taking over our kind. By no means do I mean to argue politics here, I for one have no interest in it. I simple need to get out my thoughts and feelings on what has Happened. Politics as a Canadian are discussed by those I vote to parliament to represent me and what I believe are important as a Canadian Citizen. I cannot help being concerned for those who are in need right now, and Hope that they have a strong enough Leader to not only guide but to take the right action for its people.
I am comforted by the fact that there is more good out there in the world then evil but a part of my mind can’t help fear the little darkness that still lingers out there. I don’t own a gun nor will I ever justify owning one. We pay taxes and intrust the safety to those uniformed men and women who dedicate their everyday lives to the safety of our community, yet people feel the need to own a gun in their homes? Unacceptable! Would it be natural to expect that school principal to have a gun at the school? GUNS ARE NOT NATURAL!!!!! IF you think what I am saying here (what I am thinking) is crazy, WAKE UP TURN ON THE NEWS; that was crazy. May the good light and love continue to grow amongst us, give us hope that the darkness will end and scars be held with each present day.
This is my state of mind this Saturday Morning. Anger and Sadness! RIP little angels, this crazy and unjust world didn’t deserve you. All those suffering this tremendous loss are in my thoughts. May god extent his love and comfort to all who need it the most and help us find a real answer to end this chaos. My condolences.
The Tree is up, The outdoor lights are up and my shopping finally complete online this week. First day of December and I can sit back and listen to the christmas music and enjoy watching Holiday movies. Last Year we had all our christmas things in boxes out in storage; while we rented out a small apartment. This Year, Everything came out early and I am in full holiday spirits. Continue reading
Saturdays Santa parade was fantastic and followed by a wonderful family lunch. We then strolled down the main street and did some window shopping and checked out a few shops including a kids toys store. The girls were excited about the ‘Elf on the shelf’ display. We had decided a few nights earlier, to introduce the girls to the elf story and concept to test out the waters and see if they would believe in it. Being 6 and 5 we thought might be too late at this point since we never entertained the idea of it previous years. I came across the dvd and thought it would be a good intro without having to invest into the toy right away. We sat and watched it together, it was really cute and well done. The girls then started to ponder on why it was that ‘Elfie’ never came to visit our home. They loved him and the idea of this little elf helping Santa visiting every year. At the Toy store, they asked for the elf. My husband then decided it would be nice to start the tradition. After all, baby A would eventually follow. As i walked the girls out of the shop, hubby was quick to purchase the kit and hide it within the baby stroller unnoticed. Continue reading
This Week I got the house ready for Christmas. Here in Oakville and Toronto the annual Santa Claus parade which is taking place this weekend marks the start of the Holiday season. Children all over the province are excited for the arrival of Santa and his reindeer. Santa comes to town to collect all the letters of requests and admiration from the kids. Continue reading
Baby A and I have been taking part in a school program called ‘Roots of Empathy’ We meet with a classroom of students to in our schools to teach them the importance of Love and affection in the development of children. Continue reading
It has been quit the week here at home. While recouping from a bad cold and getting my kids ready for bed, I reached for a mini chocolate bar. There it was; mmmmmmm i thought as i savored my Baby Ruth. I love chocolate and peanuts. Continue reading